Kindness or Weakness?

It’s amazing.
How some people can misinterpret our intentions or are deliberately manipulating them.

Why do I say that?
Well…

How often has it been that you have volunteered to do a certain thing for your colleague in the name of goodwill because you know he or she has loads of things to cover & besides, it is something which you enjoy doing, only to be thrown unnecessary tasks or jobs by the same fella you have assisted some time back, not taking into consideration even to ask if you have the extra time to “help” him or her out this time around?

Have you been in a situation where you have volunteered to do something, only having in the end stuck with the same assignment over & over eventhough there are others who can easily stand up to do it since you have already done your part & you’re ready to move on to something more challenging that interests you?

Or, have you known anybody who takes psychological advantage of your kindness you shown, knowing for a fact that it would be downright unacceptable or degrading to undermine your care & concern with remarks or actions which put you at risk of making emotional decisions especially those which you may regret?


This is the classic example of how people can mistake our kindness for weakness…


How much more can we give & take?


Funny, how some fail to see that to compromise actually means that both parties would have to come to a common ground, a common understanding, even if the objectives are different, in order to achieve them would need a lot of effort to come to an amicable “win-win situation”…

When either side chooses to take all the time, where will it end?
If the other side keeps giving in, how soon will fatigue set in?
How long would it take for this “one-sided” compromise to lose the very meaning of its existence?

Things cannot be seen on a “right or wrong” perspective when a compromise needs to be set in motion.
It is the very reason why there should be give & take because no particular person should be seen the entire victor (right party) or loser (wrong party).
When this simple fact cannot be established, the compromise will fail.

However, give & take or compromising is by no means a solution.
It is only a way or method, if you will, to set aside differences to achieve a certain goal, to meet certain objectives, or to certain extend, to make a relationship work.

If only some people can understand enough not to take advantage of the giving party all the time, I am pretty sure the world would be a better place to live in.


Human beings are social beings.
We need the attention of the people who care for us, because at the end of the day, this is what matter to us most.
But if we need to be precarious of our thoughts, our words or even our unintentional actions in order not to jeopardise the compromise in the fear of losing grip & be threatened by things we do not wish to face, I’d say we may as well be alone.


Because in life, not everything lost can be found.
Especially when it truly justifies the means...