"D"-Day: "D" for Decision...

Maybe... to truly love someone you’ll have to give them the space to breathe & grow, even if it means you’ll have to leave them alone...

Last night was one of the most meaningful of my life.
Not just that I managed to keep a couple of dear buddies awake well into the wee hours of the morning, it was also the one true night that all that was kept in our hearts (hers & mine) pouring & somehow, messages were sent & words found new meanings.

Of course, it was emotional.
Otherwise, there would not be a need for an intermediary.
And we were blessed to have a very good one as well.
For her willingness to play this part to such extend & with such effect, I sincerely know that I shall be eternally grateful.


But the hope of what was said & decided should not be mistakenly perceived as merely an act or stage play never escaped my mind.
In a relationship, we believe that it takes 2 to tango.
In a compromise, it should not only involve a single party trying to make things work.
In a decision made, somebody will get hurt, and most of the time, both parties end up having to heal wounds.


For love is not about being in or keeping in possession.
Sometimes, to truly love someone or something, we may just have to set them free.
Our seemingly “undivided attention” or “unwavering affection” may just be too much for that someone to handle, especially when there is so much emotional & psychological aspects to the relationship.

Look at it as trying to carry an egg with our bare hands to a destination of great distance.
How we handle the egg is literally its salvation, for if we hold on to loosely we may drop it; but if we cradle it too tightly, we may just break it.


“Everybody needs a little time away, I heard her say, from each other;
Even lovers need a holiday, far away from each other...”


And maybe, absence may just make the heart grow fonder.
If I choose it that way.


All I can say now is:
"I wish you the strength, the will & the best of luck...
Most of all, I wish you love..."